One of the first exercises in the class on the Inner Journey of Aging was to reflect on the following questions. After writing our responses we then shared them with one of our classmates. I share mine now with you and encourage you to do the same with a friend. Get the dialogue going on a deeper level.
Q. How do I feel about growing older?
Lyrics: I’ll go my way by myself . . .
Growing older brings up a different set of unknowns. This third wave is the first one on my own, i.e., without parents and husband.
Q. What do I look forward to?
Lyrics: I’ll try to apply myself and teach my heart how to sing.
Experiencing the unknowns. Expecting many changes. Adventure.
Q. What are some of the challenges of getting older?
Lyrics: I’ll face the unknowns; I’ll build a world of my own.
Challenges ahead but challenges throughout life. Learning to adapt to the changes; physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Q. What are some of my fears at this time?
Lyrics: No one knows better than I myself, I’m by myself, alone.
Fear that I’ll die too soon, before I’ve purged the basement, before I’ve put in order years of photographs, read all the books in stacks on the floor, etc. Before I’ve lived all the etceteras.
Q. In what ways do I want to grow more?
CHANGE THE MUSIC. Lyrics: You gotta make your own kind of music; sing your own special song
Learn to be more comfortable letting go. “Love wastefully” (Bishop John Shelby Spong). Be kind always. LAUGH MORE. Follow the energy and trust.
By Myself: songwriters Shinoda, Delson, Bennington, Hahn, Bourdon
Make Your Own Kind of Music popularized by Mama Cass Elliot and written by Barry Mann and Cynthia Weil.