Lyrics: It’s time to see what I can do/ to test the limits and break through/ no right, no wrong, no rules for me/ I’m free.
I’m living above chaos; a basement wasteland. Little by little I fill a bag of discards and transport it to the collection truck but at this rate I question whether I’ll live long enough to finish the job. Before our current home, we had never lived longer than eight years in one place and every move was a process of elimination; sorting through our stuff and choosing what to keep and what to leave. In the twenty seven years in this home very little has been discarded and much has been accumulated. And most of the accumulation is cluttering the basement.
The #1 hardback non-fiction book today is The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. Originally written in Japanese, it is subtitled: the Japanese art of decluttering and organizing. I bought it. Maybe there’s an easier way to clean out the basement; a happy shortcut other than setting fire to the mess.
It’s strangely comforting knowing that many are dealing with the same problem or this book wouldn’t be a best seller. But what does it have to do with the Aging Adventure? For the very reason that no matter what form of elder living is chosen down the road; independent, retirement home, adult family home, moving in with a family member, it will most likely be smaller than the space currently housing that lifetime collection of stuff. And, unless your stuff includes materially valuable items, your heirs probably won’t be as attached to your stuff as you are. So, it’s purge time.
My mother thought a lot about the disposition of her belongings and together we created an inventory list of items and their desired destination so that by the time she downsized to her final residence many items were already in the possession of her heirs; what was left ended up in my basement. It should be easy for me to clean out the basement but it isn’t. I feel like I’m giving away a bit of my mother again and again. Letting go is hard. Wonder if that’s in the book.
Lyrics: Let it go, let it go/ And I’ll rise like the break of dawn/ Let it go, let it go. (Song, Let it Go, from the animated Disney film, Frozen.)